Every one of us suffers failures in life at one time or the other. But your failure does not make you a loser. Life is a long race and not a bed of roses. Some people don’t want to fail in anything and, hence they go to great lengths to avoid defeats. So never lose hope as your failure doesn’t mean that you can never succeed. Remember that failures are the stepping stones to success. Try harder until you get the victory.
In this article, I will discuss the ways to cope with failure. But before that, let us learn the factors that lead us to unexpected defeats.
- Anxiety and depression
- Low self-esteem
- Feelings of helplessness
- Comparing yourself with others
- Negative thoughts
- Unrealistic expectations
- Lack of family support
Wisely think about the reasons for your failure instead of thinking that you are a failure. If you get to know about the reasons for your defeat, then it will become easier for you to deal with it. Success never comes according to destiny, but it comes only with sole dedication and hard work. Positivity in life is essential to deal with failure and achieve success. Now let’s discuss the ways.
1. Practice Coping Skills:
Never sit alone and think negative. Develop some healthy habits to cope with your failure/pain. Go for a walk, listen to music, call your friends, spend time with friends, practice deep breathing and meditation to deal with your pain.
2. Embrace Your Emotions:
If you suffer failure, you will have to face embarrassment, anxiety, sadness, anger, shame etc. these emotions can cause mental problems when in extremes. Try to embrace your feelings. Feel yourself and express yourself. Never keep your disappointment hidden from your dear ones.
3. Stay Practical About your Failure:
Stay positive and practical in life. Life is not a dream or a movie. Here, you have to earn your living by hard work. Never develop unrealistic expectations in life. Try to implement realistic thoughts about failure. Look into your defeat as a result of something specific and not something internal. Have confidence that you can handle those failures and challenge yourself to do better. Try to learn from your failures and ward off negative thoughts.
4. Research Famous Failure:
Spend your leisure time researching about the great personalities who have failed at one time or the other in their lives. You will find that many famous people have suffered failures many times in their life. Research about the ways they found to bounce back. You might learn many skills that will help you to get success in life. You will get to know that failure is something that everyone goes through.
5. Accept a Level of Responsibility:
Do not blame yourself and others for your failure. Blaming others will prevent you from learning lessons from it. Accept an appropriate level of responsibility for your defeat.
6. Face your Fears of Failure:
If you have never experienced failure for long years and spent your life avoiding defeat, it can be devastating if it happens in your life. Facing fears can be the key to reduce your discomfort and pains. Work harder and try new things. You will understand that failure isn’t a matter to be feared. Failures can only show you the path to success.
7. Ask Yourself what you can do:
If you are interested in learning, then failure can become a great guide. Understand yourself, think about what you can do to get success next time. Failures can become a lesson of your life if you learn how to achieve success from them.
You may develop some irrational beliefs about failure in your life. You may start thinking that you failed means you will never succeed. But it is not the truth. These thoughts can destroy the probabilities of your success. Identify the irrational beliefs and eradicate them as these may affect your feelings and your behaviour. These are some of the ways that can help you to deal with your failure at some level. But success is all up to you. You have to decide what you want and implement all the healthy habits to achieve success in life.
By – Sanchayita Chattopadhyay
