Many people feel that self-confidence is the key to success. So here are some tips you can apply to develop and work on his self-confidence.
1. Taking control of your self-confidence
You must wonder sometimes that- ‘Is there anything I do to change the fact that I have low self-confidence? Is my self-confidence entirely in my control?’ The answer to both the questions is YES!
Self-confidence is not genetic, or something you get handed over. So why rely on others to help develop it. If you think that you are not very competent, smart, or attractive, etc., well this can be changed. You are someone who deserves respect and you can do whatever you want to do despite what others have to say. You can do that by taking control of your life and your self-confidence. By taking concrete actions that improve your competence, your self-image, you’ll increase that self-confidence, without the assistance of anyone else.
2. Get Things Done
Confidence also depends on your accomplishment. If you achieve small or large goals, you’ll feel far better about yourself. Start by setting day-to-day goals for yourself. Every day ask yourself, ‘what do I want to accomplish today?’ If you accomplish these small goals you set for each day, you can take a step ahead and start setting weekly or monthly goals for yourself. Remember that progress is incremental, and massive changes don’t happen overnight. You take on a large project and set ambitious goals for yourself because you know that you can do it. Mark your aim and start working towards it.
3. Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
Whether you compare yourself with your friend on Instagram or you just compare your marks with others, the comparison is unhealthy in every sense. In fact, a 2018 study published about Personality and Individual Differences found out that people who compared themselves to others, experienced envy. Thus the more jealous they felt, they felt even worse about themselves. It’s a vicious circle. Just pay attention to your success and achievements and what you are doing to achieve them. Thinking that others are better or have more will only further deteriorate your confidence. Everyone is running their own race and life isn’t a contest.
4. Maintain a positive support network.
Connect with only those who share the same values in life, whether they’re family or friends, to keep your perspective clear and stay positive. Stay clear of people or things that make you feel bad or lead towards negativity.
Someone you call your friend might be the one who makes you feel bad about yourself, by constantly passing negative remarks, or criticizing you unnecessarily. Even well-intended relations weigh in with their opinions about what something that you can do in a better way or by constantly reminding you of your failures, is often negative for you as well as your for your self-confidence. You should set your own goals and remain positive about everything you do.
At last, limit your contact with all the negative people if you want to build your self-confidence. Take some time and think who are the people in your life that really make you feel great. Make it a goal to spend more time with them and ask for their positive feedbacks.
5. Body Language
Your body language tells a lot about you. Avoid standing with your hands on your hips, as this could reflect the desire to be dominant. And never, I repeat never slouch! Keep your head upright. Don’t lean too forward or backward, as this might make you look aggressive. Always use hand gestures while presenting. This signifies your willingness to speak and to share ideas. Always show confidence through body language.
6. How To Build Confidence on passion
There’s one incredible trick that can help you to build confidence even when you’re at your absolute lowest: brooding about something you’re passionate about.
7. Whenever feels demotivated, just remember your recent achievement.
Maybe you’ve done something great at work or helped someone in need. It can be as simple as helping someone lift a box or as intricate as solving a sophisticated problem. That’s worth celebrating. Recognizing even your smallest accomplishments can make you feel more strong and goal-oriented, which ultimately results in elevating your mood.
