Nilesh Shirgaonkar

I was jobless for a year and half.. I recently got a job yesterday. I am finding it very difficult to cope up in office. I am feeling upset of not able to spend moments at home.Why I am getting these feelings.?

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RE: I was jobless for a year and half.. I recently got a job yesterday. I am finding it very difficult to cope up in office. I am feeling upset of not able to spend moments at home.Why I am getting these feelings.?

Prathamesh Kapote
Prathamesh Kapote
Verified Career Expert
Founder And Director At Canvas Career
  • Nasik

Hello Nilesh,

A warm welcome to CareerGuide.com

Thanks for approaching us and writing us your query.

I am pleased to see that you mentioned the situation that you have been going through on this platform. We do not share many of the things to anyone especially the situation or the feelings that are not good for us. If such things longs for last they may lead to emotional issues that may harm oneself in the way of low self-esteem. Its very much necessary that we share our hard time and the feelings that we come across.

As you have mentioned that you were jobless for around a year and half thats the period when you have been finding it difficult to face the situation . And the same feeling of being down and depression has carried you in it.

But the Good Part is you are no more jobless now. You have got a job. As you have joined recently the feeling of having low self- esteem still its there with you.This feeling of low self esteem is accompanied by his other friends viz.sadness,depression etc.

So i would advice you to concentrate on your work. Be Mindful. Give a time for yourself. The things will take a bit time to settle down. Well enjoy and celebrate the moment of getting a job. Share it with your near and dear ones. Make a future plans and strive hard to achieve them. Become Happy in your new friends company Mr.Happy along with his other friends Mr.Good,Mrs.Hope,Mr.Dream etc. walk with your new friends holding hands together in the Journey of Life,Dreams and Aspirations.

As you have joined a new office it will take a time for you to adjust and gel with the office environment and people;just give time for all the things,in a month or two you will be comfortable. Enjoy the work that you are doing. Forget that you were jobless rather think that you were never jobless. Time is a Great Medicine.

Here are some of the things that i would suggest you to do on the daily basis-
1.Meditate for 5 Minutes in a day whenever possible for you.
2.Read Good Books and articles.
3.Be in the good peoples company.
4.Cherish and Enjoy every moment of Life.
5.Give time for yourself i.e have ME time.
6.Don't think that you are the Problem- Problem is the Problem.

I hope you find this information useful and helpful.

Wish you Good Luck. thumbsup

Waiting to hear from you again on affirmative note smiley . Do write us back for your feedback and also for any further queries if you have.

Thank You

Warm Regards,
Prathamesh Kapote smile

RE: I was jobless for a year and half.. I recently got a job yesterday. I am finding it very difficult to cope up in office. I am feeling upset of not able to spend moments at home.Why I am getting these feelings.?

Meghna Mukherjee
Meghna Mukherjee
Verified Career Expert
Counselor at Adaptive Minds
  • Mumbai

Hello Nilesh,

Do not worry.
It is a common scenario amongst most of us, but we do not share it with each other.

Please note that, you have been at the comfort and ease level at Home for a long time. And who likes to leave the comfort and get into hardship.
At the same-time, you have just started a job and getting into the hardship.
Give in sometime and automatically you would get adjusted to the office environment.

At the same time, think of the work assigned to you as being a challenge and think of new ways and means to solve the issue and compete with others. Get into the brain storming mood.
Also think of it as there being "No Option". You have to work and give it your best or else you have no other option left.
You can also begin your day / morning, by exercising or gyming or any other activity like sports etc which will keep you alert at all times. Also start planning your office activity.
Give yourself a target and reward yourself for the achievement of your target.

Follow what has been said above and try out new solutions by yourself too apart from what has been mentioned above.
Last but not the least, give yourself sometime. Adjustments from one environment to another takes time and Patience is the key at that time.

Hope this helps.
Wish you good luck....

RE: I was jobless for a year and half.. I recently got a job yesterday. I am finding it very difficult to cope up in office. I am feeling upset of not able to spend moments at home.Why I am getting these feelings.?

Dr. Anand Wadadekar, PhD
Dr. Anand Wadadekar, PhD
Verified Career Expert
Founder & CEO: Discovering Careers India
  • pune

Dear Aspirant,

Firstly congratulations for getting a job after a break.

It seems your job is hectic and so giving you less time for family. I think you are getting this feeling just because you were with them whole time for one and half year and now you have been habituated with their presence all the time and NOW you are out for work (which is very good) and so you feel that you have not seen them for hours.

I would suggest that this phase will pass on. Concentrating on your job, making your boss happy with your performance is the most important thing which should be in your mind right now. Do not think of leaving this job now for atleast 3 years and without a new job offer in hand.

Your family is actually happy when you are working for them and you earn the livelihood for you and them. No family will be happy if you stay at home all the time and do nothing to earn.

Just dont think of this. Go for a vacation of a day or two on weekends and enjoy.

Best wishes

RE: I was jobless for a year and half.. I recently got a job yesterday. I am finding it very difficult to cope up in office. I am feeling upset of not able to spend moments at home.Why I am getting these feelings.?

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