Sajeeda Bano

Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

Can you help me solve my query

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RE: Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

Surabhi Dewra
Surabhi Dewra
Verified Career Expert
Founder and CEO at CareerGuide.Com
  • Noida

  1. Dear friend, a very tough question to answer unless I don't know more about your aspiration but let me take a shot and help you.
    This is a very common confusion, in fact each one of us have come across this feeling: " I don't know what I want to be in life :(
    My 2 step fundamental to move to clarity:
    How do you want to see yourself in next 1 year, 2 years and 5 Years with respect to work responsibility, kind of work environment you see yourself working and kind of lifestyle you want to live.Once you have written it down, ask yourself what will you get to these goals of yours and are you doing enough for it ?

  2. Important one, speak to someone whom you can consider your mentor. Try to speak to someone outside your influence circle. Your influence circle mostly includes your family members, your friends and your colleagues. They are great support system but they will often get judgmental about what you can do and what you should doand what you want to do.

  3. Get more clarity on your interest and aptitude. Getting to know your interest and aptitude factor through career test. It can greatly help you make informed choices. Moreover, having a clear strength analysis of yours will help you tremendously
    Hope this helps. Wishing you a great success and clarity in life.

RE: Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

Ajit sankar  Mallik
Ajit sankar Mallik
Verified Career Expert
MD PhD,(CABMM) and University Hospital Zurich
  • Zurich

This is a typical query asked by freshers and even experienced professionals at various transitional points of their career.

I can suggest few aspects to decide things with logic.

1. Write down all your strengths and skills you could do independently. Based on this, go and choose courses from the next point

2. Search and look through lots of online courses (search MOOC i.e. Massive Open Online Courses) like Coursera: and Skillshare: to scan and check what exactly it means to be in a profession (what does a banker do, a project manager does, what are different educational training, sometimes you can work from home as a freelancer doing multiple skill based work online, take some relevant courses when you feel you should improve yourself on certain parameters, you can even take lots of courses to earn certificates even sitting at home from prestigious universities across the globe)
You can even take courses on photography, making Apps on mobile platform, how to cook, how to do web designing: all from your home, if you have a decent internet connection and computer.

  1. Give yourself time to do as many courses as you can and try to develop whatever excites you the most. At this point, you could even try or network with various people/ friends to visit different facilities to see and experience yourself how things are done OR doing a short internship for few weeks. This can streamline your thought process towards few streams/ job profile.

4. Try short contract based jobs (temporary) to see how do you practically like it. You can offer to work without any financial support just to explore if you like any working environment or not.

5. If you can get through above four options sincerely, I am sure, you will develop some skills, liking and options to think what you can do best or if you can do many things jointly. One can do lots of things to earn a decent living with hard work, good planning sitting at home! or Get back to me with your current background for a small chat. we can find out a new direction together!

RE: Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

manojjnu Kumar
manojjnu Kumar

Dear Friend

In my opinion you are just like unguided misile and want to reach everywhere which is not true. If you say I do not know what I want to be in life itself reflects your interest which is hidden for a specific goal. As you have not stated anything in your query so let me take the benifits of doubt for a suitable career in general:

1. Person like you seems to be interesting and hold gravity in life due to your ownness means you do not want to be like your father, mother, brother, friends etc. Generally people use to be inspired or aspired by his/own family, and friends but you are suppose to be different trait. I like to be confused initially which allows oneself at the onset of career and begins with firmness.

2. Based on the confusing skill you will revolve many things at a time and then do the self interpretation as per your interest and comfort-ability which will sediment you down with your goal Yes i got my answer I will move with this ambition and assure yourself prior assuring your family and parents about your target.

3. There is a psychology among the aspirants which brings them to unwanted and mismatch kind of discipline due to glamour and commercial reasons and at the later stage people realize the facts that I have commuted mistake due to pre-mature decision.
4. For example I am suggesting you to be a scientist or a doctor but i do not know your background your interest then it will be fatal and illegitimate for a career and a demand in society. That is why one should not take such suggestion which can mislead you and cause humdrum in life.
5. Based on your grooming skills which will be done by yourself and analyse your potential to a specific requirement of any profession then you will see the comprehensive matches between you and your goal, undoubtedly you should go for that and do not listen to others about good and bad.

Of course your analysis parameter will be taking care of the many references also wherein good and bad examples will be treated as negative and positive control but your interest will be constant at any circumstances.

6. If you are done with this rigorous course of action and then you will not look back for repetitive analysis at each stage of life it will make your life with full of ease and accomplishment.

I wish you all the success for your endeavors


RE: Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

D.magesh Cdavid
D.magesh Cdavid
Verified Career Expert
Career Counselor at Career Boosters
  • Chennai

Dont feel, lot of things are there to achieve in your life. First of all you list out your talents and unability. Based on your list, again list out which you can highly powerful of your talents and list out your Huge inability in your list.

Now go through the talent which one is high you will achieve as possible as quickly. In that particular talent you find what are the chances to achieve, where it it, how you can grab that, when you are going to start?
If you find this you can achieve easily.
Lot of Legend achieved after they failed many times only. And don't feel about your family background, Financial background, and friends, and relatives.You believe you because this manthra only will lead to you to achieve in your life.If you have less education go with any business which is not required for education. If you have less amount go with any business which is need less amount to do business. So life is so beautiful please try to utilize it to success otherwise you will lost not only your life your friends, relatives, masters and well wishers also.

See some of handicap guys are achieving lot in their life and still they are trying to do something but we are still thinking negatively and trying to skipping from our responsibilities. So go ahead think positive do well and success in your life,then one day you will be a roll model to others.

RE: Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

Sonia Agrawal
Sonia Agrawal

Hello dear friend....

After reading your query above I came to kow that you are very uncertain about your life and very much confused what to do in life, and now you are looking for a expert guidance here which is good approach towards your career as here you will find lot many experts who will guide you in the bset possible manner they can and will help you and guide you in future growth.

Do not worry at all life is too big and there are many ways in life and lot many options which we can tell you to approach, it is always a option in every thing, nothing is impossible in this world. everything is possible in this world you you approach with the right attitude and positive thinking. Do good, be good, think good is the motto of life than no body can stop you form moving towards success in life.

You can go for so many things if you are not good in study than go for some home run business like boutique store which will help you to earn also and is also a good in the perspective of career in it.

now look life in a positive attitude and with more passion and move ahead and have a successful life in future.

RE: Because I don't know what I want to be in my life

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